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5 Secrets to Raising Brave Kids

A couple years ago I had a long struggle with fear. I feared that I was making bad decisions. I feared that I was missing my calling. I feared that I was going to be left out of important stuff in life. I feared dying. I feared watching my children die. I feared worst case scenario in just about every situation.

Having fear as your companion is totally draining. Its like having that contrary friend that points out the opposite side to everything you mention. I can’t wait to share how I eventually said goodbye to fear and become a free woman! But for now, I wanted to focus on what that journey taught me about raising brave kids. Here are a few ‘secrets’ (or maybe they’ve been obvious to everyone all this time, but I finally ‘found’ them! :)) that I’ve learned:

#1. Set the tone. Do things even when you’re afraid. Talk about courage and bravery and focus on overcoming, instead of becoming a prisoner to your fears. Kids will take note if we live in fear!

#2. Teach your kids that we must always trust God. Always. If the world is crumbling around us, trust God. If we lose our jobs, trust God. If we fail, trust God. If we lose loved ones, trust God. Because God will never fail us. I get that these are hard and complex conversations to have with kids. Because bad stuff does happen. And we all experience pain. But even through that, set the foundation for your child that God is good, and our lives are in His hands, and that even in the midst of extreme pain and suffering, He is present and able to bring us peace.

#3. Live Gutsy. Take risks. Do something that is out of your comfort zone, just because. If we normalize ‘Doing it Afraid’ with a smile on our face? Yeah, our kids are going to notice! And there will come a day when they will naturally follow the same path.

#4. Find Heroes. Our kids all admire someone. So flood their mind and spirit with heroic models. They’ll take mental note of the things they admire and they’ll want to emulate that someday. (Hopefully sooner rather than later!)
We LOVE the Torchlighters series on Heroes of the Faith – you can find it here.

#5. Give your kids opportunities to serve. Serving others is like medicine for the self-centered soul. It can be really effective in getting our minds off ourselves and instead onto more important things. While at home serving is where it all begins, I think joining in a community effort kills two birds with one stone (what a horrible phrase…I grew up on that one!) . Kids serve while experiencing camaraderie.

I hope some of these ’secrets’ are helpful! I’d love to hear your feedback and what you’ve seen work for raising brave kids!

23 Comments

  1. Thanks Becka! I loved what you wrote! I’ve learned that one of the bravest things to do is to pray! I’m blessed when my kids first response to a situation is “let’s pray about it.” Because as they get older “mom” will not always be there to guide them! If they know to pray as a first response, then they have someone greater then mom could ever be for them! Keep writing and encouraging!

    1. That’s SO true, Melissa!! I love that – thank you for sharing!

  2. This is SO GOOD, Bekah!
    You forgot the link to the heroes series. I’d like to check it out.

    1. Thank you, Danielle!! If you hover over the ‘here’ it is actually the link! Let me know if that works for you 🙂

  3. Thank you! This is so true and aligns with our lives at this time. Becoming a mom has definitely let it’s fair share of fear creep in. I can’t wait to read your future posts! A few weeks ago I was convicted that my 4 year old knows the names of all the Disney Princesses but not all the Bible Stories. We just found a great book at the library, “Brave Girls Bible Stories,” by Jennifer Gerelds. I’m excited to teach her more about what it means to be brave!

    1. Ohhhhhh that book sounds awesome! I will definitely check it out! Thanks for the feedback and for sharing, Anna!!

  4. Yes!!! Great post! I always say the definition of COURAGE is being afraid but doing it anyway! This is eventually stamps out the fear…With God we can do anything!

    1. Thanks, Mom! Yup, I remember that! Soooo true – thanks for sharing mom! xo

  5. Rebekah, your wisdom and transparency are beautiful and inspiring!
    The world is terrifying. I try to teach, that the answer to “What if….?”
    is
    “If ____ happens, then God will be in that place and time to meet us, and take care of us, just as he always has.”

    1. Thank you, Laurie Ann! That’s awesome – I love love love that. Thank you for sharing.

    2. Wow…I really like that framework for all of life’s unexpected and expected situations. God is in each situation. Thanks for sharing!

  6. Love this! Thank you for sharing…I sure know what living with a world case scenario mind feels like. Can’t wait for the rest of the story!

  7. I loved reading this post and I’m looking forward to your story of overcoming the fear as I’m currently dealing with this same issue on a daily basis.

    1. I’m so glad this hit home…I am really excited to share more of my story…I’m so hoping it gives you some inspiration in your own journey <3 <3 <3

  8. Thanks for sharing, you have a very nice blog! Also loved the video in your About section!

    1. Thank you so much! I appreciate the feedback!

  9. Fear is something I struggle with a lot. I too think of the worst possible outcome and let that be what I dwell on. God has been working on me with this and I am excited to see where He is taking me and my family. I think it is important that our kids see and hear us pray in tense and fearful situations and also that they hear the praise report that follows so they can see that God is there for us and also answers our prayers. Great job Bekah!!

    1. That’s awesome Kim! Yes, so true. Thanks so much 🙂

  10. I found this very heartwarming and beautiful! great job rebekah!

    1. I’m so glad Nikhil! Thank you so much!!

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